![]() It stems from an attachment to beliefs, and a desire to somewhat, force opinions.” I even posted on Reddit CMV (Change my view) about this: Arguing is PointlessĪs I said in the Reddit thread: “I’m all for a discussion of ideas, but arguing to me is about emotional and energetic resistance to the ideas of another person, which is often displayed in the form of raised voices, yelling, interrupting/talking over, and an egotistical need to be ‘right’ and for the other person to be ‘wrong’. Isn’t it obvious that even the best arguers and debaters (Ben Shapiro, Christopher Hitchens, Sam Harris etc.) only have about a 1% success rate of changing people’s minds? How many times have you ever changed someone’s mind through an argument?Įven if the answer is “once” or “sometimes”, what about the hundreds of hours you’ve wasted arguing with closed minded idiots that were never going to change their mind no matter what you said, no matter how much evidence or proof you had? If you doubt what I’m saying tell me this: And a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.” – Dale Carnegie But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it and if you win it, you lose it. “Nine times out of ten, an argument ends with each of the contestants more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right. Isn’t this true in your own experience? Why you shouldn’t argue with most people ![]() Instead of proving your point or changing someone’s mind, most of the time you’ll just get angry and frustrated as they refuse to listen to reason, and nothing at all will change. It’s a complete waste of time and energy. It doesn’t change minds and it doesn’t work. It wasn’t until my mid thirties (I’m 37 now), that I came to see that arguing, like resistance, is futile. ![]() It was as if the argument had never taken place. ![]() Instead they just continued to believe whatever they wanted to believe, regardless of how badly their argument was contradicted by logic and reason, or how much evidence there was to the contrary. I continued to argue with people who I felt were being illogical throughout my twenties, but I noticed something: Even though it seemed like I ‘won’ a lot of arguments, they couldn’t deny my evidence, nor could they refute my logic, yet I didn’t see a lot of people changing their minds – or their behavior. I had a strong personality and I felt the need to correct anyone who I felt was being illogical in their thinking or their behavior. As a child and as a teenager I loved to argue. ![]()
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